teen mums

[Lou.Lou]

whats ur opinion on teen mums.
and why?
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[lil_nikki45]

To me personnally its not about the age its about what type of mother they are. You can still be in ur 30's and be a bad mother.
I think if ur a teen mum and got pregant by accident, but u r bringin up the child best you can gd on ye, shame not all mum and dads for that matter are like that

[Jack]

I think that 13, 14 year olds getting pregnant is quite stupid to be honest. I understand every situation is different, but genenerally teens of today go out partying, get extraordinarily drunk and then have unprotected sex. Kids aren't mentally mature enough to bring a child into this world but they still deserve help.

[AleksandraStar]

I have to agree with Jack.There is a problem now with teen moms.There are way to many girls getting preagnant at the age of 15,16,it is sad,but they should get help,so they dont have to drop out of school.And because there are so many teen moms now,as soon as someone sees a teen girl with a baby people think it is her baby.I have been asked if i was a mom so many times,its not even funny.I just turned 14 and my sister was 3 months old,that mean i would have been 12 or so when i got preagnant with her

[lil_nikki45]

I know its ridiculous, since ive left school. about 3 girls just in my year r now pregnant or had a baby

[JESSICA!]

Im not against teen moms. I personally myself, wouldnt go off and have a child. My friend just gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. And for the longest time i knew her, she was never a "slut". People automatically assume that because your pregnent, your a "slut". When in actuality it could have been the first time with someone you love

[Claw]

In my opinion, I'm on the wall really. There's a girl in my year who is pregnant, but she is quite a piece herself. She's a horrible person, and I don't think she's going to make a good mother. But that's losing the point, I could go on about her behaviour for hours long.

Teenage pregnancy happens a lot, it's mostly by accident. But it doens't mean they're all gonna be bad moms though, people far older can be bad mothers. It's jsut how much they actually try to change they're lives once the baby is conceived, you have to take care of two people know. You need to stop drugs, drinking and any other stuff that's gonna hurt you and the baby.

[Liam]

Well I think if it's something she's ready to try and she has both emotional and financial support from those around her, why not? Provided she's educated and has her future set out.
My mum fell pregnant with me at 19; she brought me up well, I think =]!
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[System Malfunction]

My mom was preg. when she was 16. I respect Teen parents with all the respect I have. No matter what decision they make on what to do with their kids.
There is a great movie for this called Juno. its an amazing movie where the girl decides on what she is going to do with the kid, after she has sex with her best friend to lose her virgiinity. I highly recommend that.

[Fauxxis]

I really don't think people that are young should be having babies or doing things that young. it's just not right. kids aren't mature enough to bring children. But then again. I agree with everybody else that it depends on the person.

[Claw]

Yeah. My mom was 18 when she had me, and she got married at 16. Though it didn't last long, but it doesn't really matter anyways. She brought me up well, even with some problems. But still, I don't think some girls would be able to bring children up.

[Vampi]

Yeah. My mom was 18 when she had me, and she got married at 16. Though it didn't last long, but it doesn't really matter anyways. She brought me up well, even with some problems. But still, I don't think some girls would be able to bring children up.

wow, 16?
that's so young...

it's all dependent on how mature the parents-to-be are, both emotionally AND financially...then it depends on love and commitment.

[Brittany]

I'm a strong believer in giving your children the best life possible... not only the best life the parent(s) can afford.

I think that if you have enough money to feed the both of you and put the child through school, the time to take care of it, the patience to teach it, and the determination to never give up, you can have a child of your own.

Like others have stated before me, it's a different issue for each individual.

I don't think we should clump all "teens" into one giant category and ask if they can have kids. It's unconventional and extremely stereotypical...

[=]]

I don't have a problem with teen mums, it's up to them if they feel that they are ready to have a child.
It's when you get women that have 4 or 5 kids by the time they are 20?!

Most middle-aged women couldn't cope with 5 kids so what makes a 20 year old, with the rest of her life in front of her, feel so superior?!
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[Aaron]

Teenagers should be practising safe sex, and I do think abortions should be promoted upon under 18s who are not capable to raising a child (obviously undergoing tests to determine if they are/aren’t or something). Many teens now adays are using the morning after pill as a form of contraception, when the fact is, it's an abortion. I think if someone falls pregnant over the age of 18 it is acceptable, but even then you could argue if that person is emotionally, psychologically and financially ready to bring a child into the world. Overall I think it comes down to the individual’s current stability really, not their age.

[Lauren-Ann--x]

I think it's all about how mentally prepared you are really .. I know someone who got pregnant at 16 just because she thought it would be "fun". She kept the baby, and he is absouletly gorgeous but truth is, she doesn't look after him as well as she should. I don't mean to be judgemental and stuff, but when you're looking after a child then you have to be 100% ready for it and you have to put them before yourself. Personally for me, i dont think im going to be ready to do that for a long time, i'm much more of a career gal to be wanting to have a kid at this age. But i guess if you feel you're ready for a family, then there's no harm in it.

[Jaymee-Marie]

My sister was a "teenage mum" she had her son when she was 18. not as young as some of the others. her son has cerebal palsy. she has coped really well and is prob one of the better mums. but then i have my other friend who had her son at 17, she isn't coping as well, her father disowned her after having him. her mum has helped but she has relied manly on her teenage friends to help her. the one thing she says would of helped her more is better networking with other teenage mums. such as other and baby groups. She gets stared at alot during town and hates it people assume she is not looking after her son properly because she is a teen.

[Amy]

Personally, I think being sexually active at like 13/14 is just stupid.
I've learnt it can become something you do just for fun, and learning that idea at such a young age can be potentially destructive, no way can you cope with a child when you've still got so much to go through yourself.

The thing is, most teenage mums don't intend on getting pregnant, and alot of the time it isn't their fault...just because they're pregnant, doesnt mean they DIDNT use protection.. nothing is 100% effective.

Kudos to those young mums who go ahead and raise their children regardless.
It isn't easy, but they do it. And most do it well.

My friend did a report on teenage mums and found that we only have this sterotypical view of them because of the media. The media cover only those who cant cope with their babys... only 5% at the most.

So I think we need to be a little more open minded about this.
They're amazing people.

[Jaymee-Marie]

totally agree

[DondeEstaElAmor]

I feel conflicted on this issue a little bit. While I don't condone getting pregnant so early, I can't say that they're stupid. My mom was pregnant with me at 17, and she's raised me well. I know for a fact that it's difficult, but I love her all the more.

[Jaymee-Marie]

To Be honest i do not think your age should dictate how well you can look after children. i agree the older you are the more emotional mature you are to be able to look after children full time.

[Josh]

I dont mind teen mums, as long as they can look after child and not using it as a posession.

[Jaymee-Marie]

totally agree!

[RustiRockstar]

I think if she chooses to keep her baby, as long as she has ways to take care of it, go for it.
There's nothing wrong with giving it up for adoption, but if there's a way to keep it, I would.
I think it's entirely up to the parents.
Unless the dad leaves.
In that case, the parent.
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[WickedlyNate]

The town I'm from is notorious for teen pregnancies, and for it's hardcore beliefs in Christianity. So, obviously, there are pregnant teens with those who tell them that their babies are damed to hell forever, because it was procreated out of wedlock. But as I see it, so long as you have at least one parent who is willing to take care of the child, there is no problem.

Note that what I said before wasn't an attack on Christianity, I was simply stating how it is around here.

[Spanky [:]

I don't think there's anything wrong with teen mums really because my cousin had her baby at like 16 or 17 and she's doing pretty good. I still think it's too young to be having children but if it happens, it happens. Just aslong as they're good mums and if they're not ready i think adoption is okay.

[ryrosaurous]

Im not against teen moms. I personally myself, wouldnt go off and have a child. My friend just gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. And for the longest time i knew her, she was never a "slut". People automatically assume that because your pregnent, your a "slut". When in actuality it could have been the first time with someone you love

you see, that's how i feel. i personally wouldn't go ahead and have sex at my age, but if you're in love and feel that it's right, then go ahead. and like somebody else psoted before me, most of it depends on what type of mom you are. you can be a married, self-righteous catholic woman who gets pregnant and be the shittiest parent ever or you can be a sixteen or seventeen year old girl who has a heart of gold and just got unlucky.

[Chelly-Wa]

I feel like age really isn't the problem, unless they are 11 - 14. It is more about being a GOOD mom, rather even if you are a teen mom. Just because your an adult doesn't mean you will make a better mother.

[Amy]

I was talking to a friend the other day about this.
Well, I only met her on friday but we had some good chats.
She's 23 and her baby is 15 months old.
Although she was what, 21 when her baby was born, she still couldnt look after it properly. Her mum had to care for him for 5 months.

I think that goes to show that age isn't the issue.
It's the mental and emotional stability.