Dating your friends [Archive]

StalkersAnonymous

04-22-2008, 09:52 PM

I think that if you dont want them to be friends o.O then its fine and totally cool

*drools* my best friend is the hottest girl ever. But shes straight ...*curses under my breath*

ditzface1221

04-22-2008, 09:58 PM

I think that if you dont want them to be friends o.O then its fine and totally cool

*drools* my best friend is the hottest girl ever. But shes straight ...*curses under my breath*

well im dating my best guy friend and yesterday was our 4 month
anni!
yay us
but like you my best girlfriend is
[uh]mazingly beautiful
and straight!

xAllie831x

04-23-2008, 01:44 AM

Uugh, it always causes a weird scenario... Right now I like one of my guy friends, and everything is awkward. When we first started school we hated each other, but slowly became friends... And then one day I caught myself staring at him thinking "Wow, I really like you. Wow. WOW! Holy sh*t. When did this happen?"
I don't know where that is going... I found out he liked me for a while, but since he didn't know if I liked him he stopped being vocal about it. Typical high school drama...
I think the problem is that when you are in high school, if you break up you often lose your friend because of the pressue other friends and coworkers put on you... Maybe wait until you are older? 0.x

Dann

04-23-2008, 11:44 AM

If you did date one of your friends, and things went wrong, would you lose your friendship?

That's why I could never date a friend.
x

Jaymee-Marie

04-23-2008, 11:56 AM

i done it once we lasted 4 days, but we felt to uncomfortable snogging lol.
we thought were best to remain friends and we still are.

Amy

04-23-2008, 01:04 PM

I think its easy to tell if it's right or not. If you're gna feel all embarassed or if it's too weird then it's prob best to fight the feeling and stay friends.

I slept with one of my good friends once. We didn't have a relationship but that bought us closer.. I think it's different for each individual.

Pip

04-23-2008, 03:58 PM

Well i think dating a friend is good because you have trust rather than some random person who you dont know much about etc.
thats what i think xD

Something-Witty

04-23-2008, 07:14 PM

Steve was my best friend before we got togather :]
and I stay friends with ex's anyway, unless they were rubbish enough to cheat on me etc, but that's their loss :)

Rach

04-23-2008, 10:03 PM

Never again. Well, not within a friendship group. I've dated two friends within my circle and it's the worst thing I ever did. I had great relationships but it shifted dynamics completely. Then again, the relationships themselves weren't really too great so that may have skewed my view. Still, at the moment my friendship group is still fractured from my volatile break-up (But that's long and complicated considering no-one knew and no-one really knows now why the "fall-out" occurred).
Still, I would date friends. Have a rather large crush on a guy friend of mine at the moment. However, he's my friend, nothing to do with my friendship circle and that's what works. Dating within an established circle doesn't work as far as I'm concerned so I'd date friends but depends on the dynamics.

Something-Witty

04-26-2008, 06:30 PM

Ahh, true.
And dating someone you've known since you were really young is wierd.
xD

Spanky [:

04-26-2008, 07:16 PM

If you did date one of your friends, and things went wrong, would you lose your friendship?

That's why I could never date a friend.
x

Yeaah i agree with this actually.

Unless your friendship wasn't strong in the first place then i'd
well hate that to happen..

Vampi

04-26-2008, 09:09 PM

Dating friends is all relative to the individuals involved in said relationship.

I could date friends, but only certain ones. I'm one for LONG relationships, and if I knew that person would not only be good as a lover, but in a long relationship as well, then I'm all for it. If my friend is a bit flaky and not what I'm looking for, a relationship with them is surely doomed, and would ruin the friendship because I lose trust when relationships end.

So...there you go.

-Vampi

Dating friends is easy because they know so much about you, you don't have to learn anything. Dating friends is hard, because they know so much about you, when things end (if badly), drama is sure to unfold.

nellyPROUD2beBI

07-08-2008, 03:42 PM

personally I think it can work...well Ive gotta think that seen as I go out with ma best friend, me and her were friends for a year and half (maybe a lil more)before we started going out. So far every things going great, I trust her completly and know shed never break my trust. 5 month next week..

But it also depends on the circumstances involved and the people in the said relationship.

I do think though that if you go out with a mate ( well they have to be your mate but yah no what I mean) then you break up, you could lose them as a friend as well as a lover but again it depends on the circumstances involved in the relationship..eg, if it just wasn't working cause u just didnt feel comfortable together as more than friends then you most likely will stay friends after but if its cause of something drastic like cheating or whatever then youre most likely not going to stay friends because youd feel like you couldnt trust them

so it all depends on the circumstances
if you feel its going to work go for it but be prepared for the circumstances :)

DTL

07-08-2008, 08:48 PM

There's nothing wrong with dating your friends because well, how are you suppose to date someone if you don't know them so obviously they'll have to be your friend unless it's your worst arch enemy and your parents made you date them. I went out with one of my best friends called Kieren, it lasted five years.. split up.. re-joined, then he dumped me cause he liked my other best friend Laura. Oh well, that's life. I have a little thing for my two other boy-best-friends Craig and Gordon but I still love Kieren..

DestroyMySoul

08-09-2008, 05:05 PM

Well I have fallen to the mistake of dating one of my best friends... It was a great relationship that lasted for 6 months. Then one day I stopped answering his phone calls and we (kind of) broke up. It was the worst thing i could have done at that point, we didn't speak another word to each other for about 2 1/2 years. Now we are starting to be good friends again, though I am catching myself liking him as more then a 'friend' again. The thing I have to tell myself over & over again is that am I willing to lose him as a friend again?

Andy

08-10-2008, 12:16 PM

If you did date one of your friends, and things went wrong, would you lose your friendship?

That's why I could never date a friend.
x

but then who would you date? O.o
I wouldn't wanna date a complete stranger

and yeah, I'd do it, but only if we understood that if it didn't work it would be nothing personal or anything

Darren

08-10-2008, 12:58 PM

To date someone you must become their friend.

Even after a relationship you can become friends with that person again.. I've done that with all of my ex's.

Amy

08-10-2008, 01:50 PM

It depends on how much there is to loose.
If youre like, BEST friends, I wouldnt risk it, but if youre just mates, then sure, why not?

As to what Benny said, I've only been friends before a relationship with one guy... and that ended with neither of us talking much now.. which is a shame.
Althoughhhhhhhh I NEVER speak to other Exs!!! LOL

Hopefully I'll never have an Ex again though. :)

Darren

08-10-2008, 07:50 PM

Nathan

08-11-2008, 06:54 AM

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08-11-2008, 09:40 PM

I think it's kinda ok to date a friend
It's just harder when things don't work out.

I remember i liked this lad once and told him. Then he told me he liked me and some other girl who I was friends with. Thing was nothing happened. Now I don't like him and he don't like me XD it's mental! XD

Amy

08-12-2008, 02:13 PM

Erm, 2010? :(!

But awhhh, Amy!!!
Thats so so so so so cute. :D
I wanna meet him.

Heh... yeah well.. what he doesnt know wont hurt him. ;)

I think it's kinda ok to date a friend
It's just harder when things don't work out.

I remember i liked this lad once and told him. Then he told me he liked me and some other girl who I was friends with. Thing was nothing happened. Now I don't like him and he don't like me XD it's mental! XD

I suppose its all just a risk. You wont know til you try...
If you dont you'll be stuck with the "what ifs" forever more!!!

Vampi

08-13-2008, 07:10 PM

Aww...one of my ex's is a best friend before hand and now again!! We've been out a few times aswell hahah...but she's a girl LMAO so yea i have faggitude!!

Well Amy, i'll never have another ex either since i need a boyfriend first!!

Ahh, Benny, I'll be your boyfriend:]
-laughs hard-
oh me;]

I'm REALLY surprised you're not dating anyone, you really are quite a looker!

-Vampi

ryrosaurous

08-19-2008, 11:06 PM

i think you should be friends with the person before you date them. that way you know each other and not going into it blind. and if they're a good friend, they won't mind making a friendship work if things end badly.

Nathan

08-19-2008, 11:24 PM

But on the other hand you could complicate the friendship, and ruin what you've already got...
I'd rather go into it not knowing much about the other person, that way theres nothing to lose...

Something-Witty

09-19-2009, 12:52 PM

Still convinced dating friends is the way, the guy I'm seeing at the moment has been my best friend at uni for the last year, and when we first got together we decided it was long overdue :]

Although it's always a little awkward when you first tell people who also know the pair of you xD

LeahAriane

09-19-2009, 09:55 PM

If you did date one of your friends, and things went wrong, would you lose your friendship?

That's EXACTLY what I worry about. I have a REALLY, REALLY, REALLY big crush on one of my best guy friends and I'm afraid to tell him for fear of it wrecking the friendship...

AmbulanceIsLate

09-19-2009, 11:38 PM

I'm hypothetically dating one of my best friends.
Hypothetically being "If we didn't live 3,000 miles away." Maybe when I leave for college because I'll hopefully be going to chicago, which is where his brother lives.
I think when it's mutual, it'll be great. But when it's single sided it could be horrible.
As far as dating regular friends goes, I don't think I'd date anyone I didn't consider my friend first. I mean, talking to random strangers is cool, but dating them, I don't think I'd do. I think I'd have to trust someone enough to date them.
If you don't know him/her well, what's not to say he/she doesn't have HIV/AIDS or won't go and post pictures of you when you're trashed and whatever else.

But it would probably be more exciting to date someone you don't know because there would be more to explore and stuff.